Kay's Obsessions

This could be one of the hardest things to actually do. It is so easy to hear it and agree, or say it to somebody else. But when it comes to actually doing it, wow, it’s a lot harder than it sounds. But trust me when I say that staying true to yourself and staying proud of yourself are the two most important things you can do. Let me tell you why.

First of all, you need to figure out who you are, or who you want to be. That’s the hardest part before the hard part even begins. But once you have an idea of who you are as a person, the basic idea is to keep it that way. Do not allow other people to change you in ways that you do not want to be changed. Of course, through out our lives we are going to change and learn and grow. Because if we stayed exactly the same for the eighty something years we live on this planet, that would be really boring. So on some level, change to your character is going to take place. But what I mean particularly is stand up for yourself. Don’t let others tell you how to act or how to speak or what to wear. Don’t let others tell you how to have your fun or what’s cool or ask you to change yourself for them. Because people are all unique in their own ways and that is so so special. We have to stand by our own fun, and our own fashion, and our own thoughts. Be your own person and be proud of it.

Tonight for example. I went out with friends and I had one of those nights where I was just so excitable and giddy. I laughed loud and a lot. I made ridiculous jokes way too many times. I talked a million miles a minute. I told my whole life mission when somebody asked me what career I wanted. I got passionate and crazy and wild and me. And the best part was that I wasn’t for a minute ashamed of any of it. I owned it. Because that is who I am. I am a crazy girl who loves to have a good time and be carefree and be loud and wild sometimes. So I own it. Why should I be ashamed or tame myself when I am having fun? I am not bothering anybody, I am just being me and doing my thing with my friends. And you should too. It doesn’t matter if one friend prefers to stay quiet or not be noticed. Or if the group is more shy. And it doesn’t matter what strangers say or what they think. Just be you and own it. Be proud of your uniqueness. Have fun. Don’t allow the fear of judgement overcome your personality and letting it shine.

I used to allow fear of judgement overcome me. And sometimes I still struggle. But let me tell you, going on this journey of not caring about what strangers think is so empowering. It makes you feel free. Lighter even. Because I realize that other people are not judging me. Most times they couldn’t even care less. And you know what? Even if I did something really silly and somebody noticed? Oh well because they are going to move on with their day. Both of you will laugh and the world will continue spinning. I seriously believe laughter kills any and all awkwardness in those random situations with strangers.

I say all of this because I want to show you that it’s okay to be a little crazy. It’s okay to have your fun. Because again, if you are not bothering anybody there is no reason why you can’t be you. Be you and be proud of it. And if the people you spend your time with don’t like that, then find more people who do. Because there is a group of humans out there waiting for each one of us to love us just the way we are. Our crazy and all. And they won’t ask us to change ourselves to make them feel better. If we stay true to who we are and stay proud of what makes us uniquely us, then our life will operate completely differently. We will stop being so critical of what others think of us. We will go about our business with less worry. With less need to be perfect. We will stop dressing ourselves up to go out every night. We will stop spell checking every text to our close friends. We will stop covering our mouths when we laugh. We can finally just be ourselves when we can accept that it’s so perfectly okay to be ourselves.

Each person in this world has a uniqueness about them. We all have gifts to share and a purpose for our life. Our personalities and particular qualities are a part of what shapes and makes our lives. When we embrace ourselves we not only find our true selves but we can have fun with being that. So don’t let anybody change you. Be proud of who you are and show the world. Show your smile, your laugh, your hair, your dance moves. Be crazy and be you. And have fun while you’re at it.